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Sex On The First Date: Proper or Improper? |
About the Author:
By: Paul D’Amour
http://www.ScentofSex.com
Instant Love.
The advent of technology in our society brought about speed and efficiency in almost anything and everything that surrounds our daily lives. Instant coffee, instant noodles and instant services are just some of the things once can get easy access to nowadays. But who would have thought that the day and age for instant love will come our way sooner than we have expected?
No, I am not talking about love in a box if that is what you are thinking – although you might be surprised that the said kind of love can actually exist if you are resourceful enough. Instant love now comes in the form of online dating, a phenomena that came with the upsurge of the Internet.
The concept of online dating is simple enough. Scouring the World Wide Web for a potential partner nowadays is just as common as selecting a fruit from the produce section of any grocery store.
Interested parties with a personal computer and has an Internet connection can take part in this booming social party. Anyone who is single, unattached and ready to mingle but would want to do away with the hassles and awkwardness of blind dating can just sit in front a computer and search for love dating online. By just creating an account in any online dating site, anyone can check out other people‘s profiles and pictures, interact with them initially through instant messages and email before they meet up and eventually end up their perfect match.
One might think that online dating is impersonal but online dating services are there to prove them wrong. Several online dating services even offers to suggest the perfect person to anyone based from their hobbies and interests, location, educational attainment, sexual orientation and preferences, nationality and practically almost any information from which they can draw who the best possible mate for anyone is. If someone is too shy and timid to leave the person he or she has her eye on a message, some free online dating services can even do the initial “messaging” for them.
Of course, even with these online dating sites offering to help anyone with their love lives and dating situation, one who wishes to engage in this type of social meet ups should always be wary and careful. Adult dating online sites can be a breeding ground for people who have sketchy personalities. A singleton who is just looking for a good time with the opposite sex might be deceived by so-called adult dating services if they are not careful.
Not everyone who logs on into adult dating sites are looking for nice long walks on the beach, someone to hold hands with and all those rose-colored love stories that we often see in chick flicks. Some of the people who look for dates in these online dating sites may actually be looking for an easy way to have sex on the first date. Then again, if that is what you are in to then read on.
Whether you are someone who wonders if sex on the first date with someone you just met online is a good idea or someone who wants to know if your sex on the first date strategy may actually help you build a more intimate relationship with someone from the internet then here are some insights that you may want to consider before you become cozy with your partner on your initial meet up.
Instant Sex?
Sex on the first date is not unconventional as what most of us might think. Statistics show that more women in Australia confess to having sex on the first date than those who live in the United Kingdom and America. If that much women are having sex on that part of the world, then one might wonder if having sex on the first a rather enticing idea.
Several stories – both good and bad – regarding people’s experience about sex on the first date has circulated on the dating loop for some time now. One of the most popular first date sex story is about a woman who went out for the first time with a guy she’s been having an online relationship for some time only to find out that the guy just wants to have sex with her. When the woman refused, the guy never called her back again after their first date.
Another first date sex story involves a couple who met online, had the most wonderful sex on their first and eventually ended up being a couple for several years. Although this sounds bogus and appears like a probable urban legend, some couples have actually attested to having the same experience.
Now take out the “meeting online part” and we can be sure that the number of women (or men) who had the same experiences regarding sex on the first date will double.
Although no sex, advice or relationship columnist has ever pushed his or her readers to have sex on the first date, having a definitive answer on whether having sex with someone on your first meet up is a good choice or not is impossible.
Most relationship experts would say that the people involved should decide on the acceptability of having sex on the first date– the man and the woman who are on the said date. If both parties are willing to engage in sex then who is to say that what they are doing is improper?
Another consideration about first-date sex is the expectations that may follow after the first date. One of the two persons involved may think that having sex on the first date means being establishing intimacy early on in their relationship. The other one might think that he or she just got free sex from someone he or she just met.
Before anyone should commit into doing this very personal act, both must be aware and informed of what they are going into. Both should ask each other the question “What happens next?” Will they officially be a couple after this? Will they continue seeing each other? Is this an act of commitment with each other or just a way to consummate our carnal desires?
First-Date Sex For Online Relationships
Of course, we also have to consider the setting from which you and your partner have as we delve into the issue of being intimate on the first date. Meeting someone from a bar and having casual sex with him or her afterwards may not have the same dynamics as that of meeting someone online, having an exchange of messages with him or her for some time and then eventually agreeing to meet up in person afterwards.
For couples that have been cultivating an online relationship and are thinking about having sex on their first date think about what this intimate act might do for your relationship. Since you have been talking and communicating online, you might tell yourself that having sex on the first time that you will see each other is the next step in your relationship. This might be true in some context but remember that your relationship does have a unique set-up. If you have not met even once and just had your relationship revolve around the internet then you did not have the same hands-on experiences that some of the “conventional off line” couples have. Fact of the matter is, first-date sex may lead into false intimacy between you and your partner.
If you have been able to contain yourselves and were contented in having a relationship through a monitor, then spending more one-on-one time with your partner would not hurt anyone.
Whether you are your partner had an online or offline relationship before you agreed to go on a first date, the choice to have sex on your first meeting relies solely on the people involved – YOU. If ever you want to engage in first-date sex then you and your partner have to be sure that nobody’s feelings are being compromised.
About the Author:
By: Paul D’Amour
http://www.Scentofsex.com
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